So now we established what a positive birth is let’s get practical with some tips for enjoying your birth.
I asked the Hampshire doulas for their top tips for planning and having a positive birth.
Here are some of their answers:
“Being open minded, [make] informed choices and [make sure your] decision making … is respected. [Get good] Support. [Take] time to reflect/debrief. [after your birth]”
“…getting all negativity off your chest before your big day.”
“Don’t watch too many Births on the TV – Documentary or drama! they have been chosen, edited or staged by production companies and tend to generate fear. Know your choices and surround yourself only with people who love and support you”
“Read a good birth book like one by Sheila Kitzinger or Bump for example. Make a plan A for your birth but also make plans B C and D so you and your birth support people are all clear on what’s most important to you and how to support you if things don’t go as expected. Then put all those other thoughts to one side and focus on expecting and doing everything you have control over to prepare for plan A.”
When it comes down to it we’re all saying the same thing, surround yourself with positive people, people who know about birth and how good it can be. Surround yourself with good support, people you can talk through your fears with and people who will listen to you and respect you and your plans for your birth.
People learn differently, some best by reading, some by listening some by doing, play to your strengths as you seek out information about birth and what it’s like but in whatever way you choose do make sure you get the information you need to look forward to your birth.
Talk about your thoughts and fears and plans about birth with your partner. Talk about them with someone who knows about birth. Go to a positive birth group or any other support group near to you and talk about it with other mums who are positive about birth (avoid listening to the horror stories that some people like to tell) get it all off your chest and get the facts and some ideas on what has helped other people and choose what you think will best help you.
This is what you get when you book a doula, someone who is positive about birth, who can help you find the information you need and who will support you whatever your plans and choices.
Put it all in one sentence: how do I plan a positive birth? Learn about birth and surround yourself with loving supportive people.